I was so excited to get started on this post that I had to force myself to finish folding the pile of laundry that had just come out of the dryer or it would never get folded. I’d finish up this post and then find something else to do and the laundry would just never make it out of the basket. Alas! It is done!
So…why is it so dang difficult to find a bra that fits? There are hundreds of styles out there. It shouldn’t be so difficult, right? Yeah, not so much. (And this is where the fun part of this post comes into play because, see, I love analogies and I’m gonna use one that makes tons, oodles, lots of sense. I hope).
Think of all the aspects of fit or aspects of breast configuration, in some cases. Are you pondering them? There’s a lot, right? Let’s make a list…all the ones that I can think of right now:
- Pendulousness (shallow to waist level) **edited to keep the aspect in the same realm
- Root height (tall to short)
- Root width (narrow to wide)
- Root placement (close-set to wide-set)
- Fullness on Top
- Fullness on Bottom
- Firmness of tissue (Very firm to very malleable)
- Areola (Large to small)
- Nipples (Always erect to not)
- Breast direction (Splayed out to splayed in (forgive me, I don’t recall if there is a different term for splayed in))
That’s, what, ten aspects? Now, imagine, for each aspect a scale from 0 to 9 on these ten aspects. Maybe, yours looks like this: 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 9, 8, 9, 5 (I used my own to go with J). You could almost say it like this: 555-555-9895. Like it’s a phone number. One digit different and you’re calling someone else. Lol. Going with the phone number analogy, think of how many different phone numbers there are in the world.
There are more breast configurations than that. There are NOT that many bras.
So, you have to decide where you’re going to compromise. For me, I compromise on a bra in the immediate projection arena (I have it, a lot of bras don’t)and bra lining(I don’t care if folks know I’m cold). Aspects that I can’t or won’t compromise: Cup width (I don’t want wires poking me in the armpit), molded cups (I just don’t fill the top), and bras that are constructed in such a way that the top of the cup gives me “tarp on a boat”.
And it takes trying on a few styles to get a feel for what you’ll compromise on and what you won’t. To date, I’ve tried on between 65 and 80 bras—some I’ve got notes on because I ordered online and tried them on at home; others were ones that I tried on in stores and didn’t have my notebook with me. I’ve found four that worked but ALL required me to compromise on fit in some way with the compromise being different for each style.
The process of narrowing down takes some time, especially if you don’t have a bra store near you or you don’t have the method or means to order online. I just encourage you to not give up. Eventually, you won’t have to compromise (as much) and you will find a bra that fits. Even if it’s just a matter of fitting *better* than your old bras.